See Saw Sex Position: Deep Penetration and Clit Grinding

You know when you’re riding cowgirl and you just can’t hit your clit and feel him deep at the same time? Drives me nuts. The see saw fixes that. You lean back, plant your hands, and rock your hips like a seesaw: your clit grinds into his pubic bone on every forward tilt, and he reaches spots that straight-up-and-down missionary never touches.

It’s a cowgirl variation that tilts your whole pelvis backward into a rocking motion instead of the usual bounce. That means deeper penetration and way more clit-to-pubic-bone contact than regular cowgirl. If you’ve been chasing an orgasm on top and getting nowhere, this is your new go-to.

What Exactly Is the See Saw?

Deep penetration and clit grinding in one move? That’s the see saw. You straddle your man, lean backward, plant your hands behind you, and rock your hips forward and back like a seesaw while he lies flat or slightly propped beneath you.

No bouncing. Your pelvis is the hinge. When you tilt forward, your clit presses into his pubic bone. When you rock back, his dick angles deep toward your G-spot. The whole motion is a continuous glide, not an up-and-down pogo.

Quick facts before you try it:

What makes the see saw different is that forward grind. Missionary can’t give it to you, and standard cowgirl often leaves you doing exhausting cardio without enough clit contact. This position keeps your clit pinned on every forward pass while his dick hits angles straight-up positions miss.

It’s a close cousin to the seagull position, where you also lean back with hands planted, but the seagull has you leaning way farther, almost lying down. The see saw keeps your hips more upright, more in that sweet rocking zone. Think of it as modified cowgirl with a serious G-spot and clit payoff.

• Difficulty: Moderate. You need some hip mobility and thigh stamina, but the motion itself clicks after a couple of tries.
• Best for: Clitoral grinding, deep G-spot and fornix stimulation, and staying in control of the rhythm.
• Flexibility: You’ll want enough hip and lower-back ease to lean backward without your back complaining. If cowgirl already feels good, you’re probably fine.

Getting Into the See Saw Without the Awkward Fumbling

You’re in charge from the first move. Getting into it is simpler than you’d think.

Start in cowgirl. Straddle your man, facing him, knees on either side of his hips. Let his dick slide inside while you’re upright.

Lean back and plant your hands. Without lifting your pelvis, slowly lean your torso backward until your hands touch the bed or floor behind you. Keep your feet flat for stability, with your soles roughly under your knees so you can push off when you rock.

Find your man’s comfort. He can keep his legs straight or bend his knees. Bent knees give your lower back less strain. Straight legs put more tension in your abs, which helps you grind harder. Let him adjust so his erection isn’t bending uncomfortably.

Rock, don’t bounce. Push through your hands and feet to tilt your pelvis forward. That’s the clit grind. Then pull with your hamstrings and glutes to rock your hips back, which drives his dick deeper and angles it toward your G-spot. Picture a seesaw: your hips are the hinge, your clit and G-spot are the two ends of the ride.

Your Moves on Top: The Rock, the Tilt, and the Grind

Your job isn’t just rocking. It’s grinding, tilting, and angling your pelvis so your clit gets exactly what it needs. Here’s how to cycle through three moves that get the job done.

The slow grind. Rock your hips in a deliberate circle. As you tilt forward, press your clit down against his pubic bone and hold for a second before drawing back. That constant pressure builds deep, humming clitoral arousal. Perfect for warming up.

The deep dip. Tilt your pelvis far backward by arching your lower back and letting your weight shift toward your hands. This points the head of his dick directly into your anterior vaginal wall, right where your G-spot lives. Hold the tilt and make tiny rocking movements, barely an inch, to hammer that spot without losing the angle.

The quick rock. When you’re close, drop the slow circles and switch to fast, shallow rocks. You don’t need big moves. A tight, speedy seesaw that keeps your clit pinned will carry you over the edge. Your thighs will scream. Ride it out.

Still not enough clit stimulation? Wedge a small bullet vibrator between your bodies. Press it against your clit while you grind. His pubic bone plus the buzz: it’s almost unfair how fast that combo works. Just remember water-based lube if the vibe is silicone.

What Your Man Needs to Do (Two Moves That Actually Help)

Your guy’s job? Be a stable base, not a human jackhammer. He can add two moves that make everything better.

The upward bump. While you rock forward and grind your clit down, he lifts his hips a couple of inches to meet you. That tiny bump shoves his dick deeper exactly when you’re tilted forward. You get the clit pressure and a deep kiss on your fornix. Timing is everything, though. If he bumps on the wrong beat, the rhythm falls apart. Tell him to follow your tempo, not his.

The steady hand. He puts his hands on your hips, not to steer, but to feel your pace and nudge you when you speed up or slow down. He can also press you down slightly when you grind forward, giving you more clit pressure. But you’re the one directing. If he grabs and drives you like a joystick, you lose the angle. Tell him plain: “Keep your hands there and follow me. If you want it harder, ask.”

He absolutely must not jackhammer from below. Fast, stabby thrusting kills the seesaw glide and can make him slip out at the worst moment. Smooth, gliding thrusts that match your rocks are what make this position unforgettable.

When It Goes Sideways: Quick Fixes for Common Wrecks

Even the best position can go sideways. Here’s the stuff that’s tripped me up and how to fix it fast.

Legs giving out? Your thighs and glutes are working hard. If they start shaking too early, slide a firm pillow under his hips or under your hands. The slight angle change takes the strain off your quads. A folded yoga mat works in a pinch. I’ve done it.

Slippery hands? Planting your hands on smooth sheets can send you sliding forward mid-rock. Put a yoga mat, textured towel, or non-slip rug pad under your hands. You get a stable push-off surface and no skidding.

Painful angle for him? If his erection feels bent or achy, he probably needs to bend his knees or prop his pelvis with a wedge pillow. A slight lift aligns his dick with your vagina better, making the whole seesaw motion smooth instead of pinchy.

Not enough clit contact? If you’re rocking and your clit still isn’t connecting with his pubic bone, the gap is too big. Lean back a tiny bit more to tip your pelvis forward. Or add that slim vibrator as a bridge.

Lube drying out? Grinding friction can eat up natural lubrication fast. Keep water-based lube on the nightstand and reapply the second you feel any drag. Silicone toy? Water-based lube only.

Neck strain? It’s tempting to crane your neck to watch the action. Tuck your chin slightly, keep your neck in line with your spine. Your neck shouldn’t be doing any work. If you feel tension, you’re holding your head wrong.

Sharp pain, not muscle burn but a pinching, stabbing sensation, means stop and adjust. No orgasm is worth an injury.

Also, if you’re on a soft mattress, balancing can be harder. A firmer surface gives more control. Experiment with the bed, a yoga mat on the floor, or even a sturdy ottoman.

5 See Saw Variations for Different Bodies and Moods

Your body changes day to day, and so does what feels good. These tweaks keep the see saw fresh.

1. Reclining see saw. Have your man lie on a wedge pillow or a stack of firm cushions so his hips are lifted. You lean back farther, almost reclining against his thighs. This deepens penetration dramatically and gives your quads a break.

2. Wall-assisted see saw. If your bed has a headboard or there’s a wall behind you, plant your hands against it instead of the mattress. More stable push-off, less arm fatigue. Your clit grind gets stronger with less effort.

3. Side-by-side see saw. Start spooning with him behind you. Lower your top leg forward and lean your upper body back toward him, planting your hand on the bed. The same forward-tilting hip rock works from this angle, targeting your G-spot while you reach down to rub your clit or grab a vibe.

4. Plus-size friendly see saw. Widen your knees farther apart than you would in standard cowgirl. More hip room, less pressure on inner thighs. Use a firmer surface if you can, since squishy mattresses make balancing harder, and put a supportive cushion under his hips to align your bodies without strain.

5. Bent-over see saw. Start in doggy style on your elbows. Drop your chest toward the bed and rock your hips back and forward with the same seesaw rhythm. The backward rock pushes his dick deep against your front vaginal wall for intense G-spot and A-spot pressure.

Positions Similar to the See Saw (And When to Switch)

I’m gonna say it: regular cowgirl is overrated. Once you’ve felt the see saw rock, that up-and-down bounce can feel like cardio with no payoff. But sometimes you want variety. Here are a few to rotate in.

Cowgirl. Switch back when your thighs need a break from the leaning-back angle or you want faster bouncing instead of grinding pressure.

Reverse cowgirl. Face his feet, lean forward or sit upright, and grind backward into him. Angles his dick differently, puts more direct G-spot pressure, and frees your hand for clit play. Good for when the forward grind isn’t hitting right.

Seagull. Lean all the way back until you’re almost lying down, still straddling him. Extremely deep penetration but less clit grind. Switch to seagull when you want that filled-up intensity and slow, deep stroking.

Butterfly. You’re on your back at the edge of the bed, legs pulled up toward his shoulders while he stands and thrusts. You’re not on top, but the depth and G-spot angle are similar. Perfect when you want him to do the work but still target those same spots.

The See Saw Advantage

Once you nail the see saw, you’ll wonder why you ever bounced. It puts deep penetration and clit grinding entirely in your hands, literally. You set the angle, depth, and speed that gets you off. Practice the rocking rhythm with your man, speak up about what feels good, and tweak the variations until this is the position you reach for every time you want to come on top.

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