Spank Me: The Complete Guide to Erotic Spanking in 2026

Spank me. Two words that can turn a quiet Tuesday into a soaked, shaky, endorphin-drenched mess, if you know what the hell you’re doing. This guide isn’t a Pinterest board of soft ideas. I’m handing you the straight map from first-time “oh god, can I say that?” to confident, skilled play where you’re calling the shots and loving every blistering minute. We’re not talking vague “explore your intimacy” fluff. I’m talking how to ask your man to spank your ass until it glows, how to make every swat feel like a throb of hot pleasure instead of a medical bill, and all the safety that keeps your night from ending in an ER and a really awkward story. Whether you’re after a couple of giggly slaps over his jeans during foreplay or a deliberate scene that leaves you floating, bruised, and sobbing with relief, I’ve got you.

What It Actually Means When You Say “Spank Me”

Here’s the raw truth nobody hands you: when you whisper “spank me” to your man, you aren’t just asking for a hit. You’re inviting a whole consensual cocktail of sensation, vulnerability, and arousal that lights up your brain and your pussy in a way almost nothing else can.

Erotic spanking is impact play, a kink practice where one person strikes another’s body for sexual pleasure. It slides from a playful ass smack during doggy style all the way up to extended, structured scenes that look like old-school discipline. The arousal isn’t some accident. Your butt cheeks are dense with nerve endings and sit right next to your genitals. A well-timed sexual spanking dumps blood into your entire pelvic floor, makes your clit hyper-sensitive, and triggers an endorphin cascade that mashes pain and pleasure into one electric signal. For a lot of women, the mental side hits even harder: the surrender, the draw of anticipation, the gut-level feeling of being wanted so much he’s going to mark you.

Consensual spanking means every single strike happens because you both want it, and that permission stays alive the whole time. The little phrase “spank me” is an invitation, not a command, and it only works because you’ve already built the trust to say it out loud.

Funny thing: those same two words can mean completely different things depending on the night. One evening it’s a giggly over-the-knee swat while you’re making out on the couch and half your clothes are still on. Another night it’s a slow, rhythmic assault that leaves you crying and then pulls you into deep, quiet aftercare where you feel more seen than you have all week. The difference isn’t the word. It’s the intent, the intensity, and the connection you and your man build around it.

Before You Even Get Naked: The Unsexy Rules That Keep Spanking Hot

Skip these basics and you’re not going to get a hot memory. You’ll get a bruised tailbone, a partner who thinks he’s an abuser, and a weird ache that lasts three weeks. Burn these in:

Consent is a breathing, horny conversation. You talk about spanking long before your panties hit the floor. You confirm that both of you are enthusiastic, not just “yeah, sure.” And you check in during the act, because arousal can tank your pain tolerance in seconds flat. A fast “Still good?” isn’t optional.

Know where to hit, and where to never, ever touch. Train your man to aim for the fleshy sweet spot in the center of each ass cheek. The tailbone, lower back, and hip bones are off-limits forever. Hit those and you’re not playing; you’re causing damage.

Warm up your ass or eat bruises for a week. Even a few slow, gentle smacks flood the area with blood, stretch the muscle, and turn a startling sting into a building throb. Jump straight to hard spanks and you’ll mark in ugly patches and flinch every time he lifts his hand.

Aftercare is part of the fucking scene, not the credits. When the spanking stops, your body and brain need a deliberate cooldown: lotion, water, a blanket, and quiet skin-to-skin. That’s where the emotional bond seals, not in the heat of the spanking itself.

Your sweet spot is yours alone. Try cupped, flat, and flicking spanks at low intensity to map what your body loves. What sends you into orbit might annoy your best friend, and that’s perfect. You’re learning your own arousal blueprint, not a cookie-cutter sex tip.

Four Things You Gotta Lock Down Before His Palm Hits Your Ass

Great spanking doesn’t start when you bend over. It starts when you have the balls to say what you want, set your edges, and make sure your man knows the rules before the heat hits.

The Consent Conversation

Rookie move: you try to skip the talk and just nudge his hand toward your butt during sex, hoping he’ll get the hint. Sometimes that works. Sometimes you end up feeling weird and he’s confused and nobody cums. Don’t gamble.

Have the consent chat outside the bedroom, fully clothed, when nobody’s horny or rushing. Tell your man exactly what “spank” means to you. A few playful smacks during doggy? An extended over-the-knee session that leaves you sore for a day and floaty for three? Get specific about the act, the force, and the vibe you’re after. That clarity turns a dicey assumption into a shared, negotiated fantasy.

Scripts to Ask Your Man to Spank You

Not sure how to start? Steal these. Mix and match to fit your voice. The goal is to make the ask feel normal, not like a shameful secret.

Plenty of women have texted a boyfriend, “I want you to put me over your knee and spank me till it aches.” The boyfriend texts back, “Wait, for real?” and they laugh so hard they have to start over. Then they had the rawest, most connected session of their relationship. She told me later, “I wish I’d asked a year sooner.” Every script here invites an actual response, not just compliance. If his face freezes, slow down. If he grins, you’re off.

• “I’ve been thinking about something hot to try. I want you to spank me during sex. Like, really spank me, not just a tap. Are you into that?”
• “Remember the other night when you grabbed my ass harder? I got so turned on. It made me realize I want you to spank me. Can we talk about making that a thing?”
• “Ever thought about spanking as something sexy, not just punishment? I have, and I think I’d love it if you tried it with me. Can I tell you what I imagine?”
• “Hey, I want to ask you something a little out there. The idea of you putting me over your knee and spanking me really turns me on. Is that a conversation we can have?”
• “You know how I love it when you’re a little rough? I realized what I actually want is for you to spank me, harder than you probably think I can take. Can we talk about that?”

Setting Your Limits

Hard limits are the things you will not do, period. Soft limits are stuff you’re nervous about or might consider in the right mood with lots of warning. Say them out loud or scribble them in your notes app, because it forces you to know your own lines before the scene blurs them.

Common hard limits: no marks visible past my clothing, no spanking while I’m angry, no impact on anything except my ass cheeks, no spanking when either of us has been drinking. Common soft limits: trying a paddle, light roleplay, slightly longer sessions. You decide. And you can always add a new limit mid-scene; nobody loses their kink card for saying “actually, not that.”

From Playful Pat to Punishment: Pick Your Spanking Flavor

You dodge that miserable moment where you wanted giggles and got a cold discipline scene by knowing exactly which style you’re in the mood for.

Playful spanking: Light, fast smacks with a flat hand, often over clothes or during foreplay. The aim is arousal and laughter, not deep impact. You might get a few swats while making out, or when you bend over in front of him on purpose just to be a brat.

Sensual spanking: Slow, deliberate strokes built to brew heat and connection. Your man rubs, warms, and kneads your ass between soft smacks. This blends seamlessly into massage and heavy petting, and with steady eye contact it can feel more intimate than penetration. It’s the gateway between vanilla touching and full kink.

Discipline spanking: Firmer, structured, often in a specific position like bent over a chair or across his lap. It usually has a clear start, middle, and end, and might include counting or a stern tone. The sensation is meant to push you, not just tease, and the psychological weight is part of the turn-on.

Roleplay spanking: A discipline or playful spanking wrapped in a shared story. Naughty student, bratty spouse, rule-breaking secretary: whatever script makes your cunt throb. The dialogue matters just as much as the hand.

BDSM spanking: High-intensity, often with implements and deeper power exchange. There might be restraints, kneeling, protocol, and clear dominance and submission dynamics. This is not casual exploration; it requires solid negotiation, safewords, and heavy aftercare.

Maintenance spanking: A regular, non-sexual (or semi-sexual) spanking done to reinforce a dynamic or for stress release. Some couples use it weekly to reset tension; others do it when one partner needs grounding. It’s less about immediate arousal and more about emotional regulation, but the closeness can be bone-deep.

Safe Zones, Safe Words, and the Stuff That Keeps You Out of the ER

You make spanking feel like a filthy escape, not a trip to urgent care, by locking down these seven non-negotiable rules.

Only land on the fleshy safe zone. Picture a generous oval over the lower center of each ass cheek, below the crest of the hip but well above where the thigh starts. That’s the target. Never leave it.

The tailbone is sacred ground. Your coccyx sits at the very bottom of your sacrum. A direct hit can bruise bone and leave you in agony for weeks. I’ll never forget the night a partner’s paddle clipped my coccyx. I felt a deep, nauseating ache for weeks and couldn’t sit without a donut pillow. I wish I’d known the sweet-spot map before that session. If his hand or a paddle lands there, the session stops cold.

Keep every swat below the kidneys. Your lower back, roughly where your ribs end, houses your kidneys with only muscle between them and a blow. A missed paddle swing can rupture blood vessels. All impact stays well below the waist and on your ass only.

Warm up or bleed weird. Cold skin stings sharply and marks in ugly splotches. Five to ten minutes of light, repetitive pats and rubbing flood the tissue with blood and let you both gauge your tolerance before intensity climbs.

Check in constantly. Your man needs to ask “Where’s your number, one to ten?” or “Too much?” after any increase in force. If you go non-verbal, he watches your breathing and body for sudden flinching or stillness, and that stillness often means dissociation, not enjoyment.

A safe word is a hard red light. Pick something unignorable like “red” or “pineapple.” The moment it’s spoken, all play stops, his hands come off you immediately, and aftercare begins. No “just one more,” no negotiating. Saying your safeword isn’t failure; it’s a goddamn superpower.

Have your aftercare kit waiting. Toss a clean towel, unscented lotion or arnica gel, a bottle of water, a blanket that smells like home, and a snack you can eat without thinking. When the last spank hits and your nervous system starts to crash, you want that comfort in arm’s reach, not scattered around the house while you shiver and cry.

Medical disclaimer: Do not try spanking if you have a blood clotting disorder, are on blood thinners, have sciatica or spinal injuries, or are pregnant without direct medical clearance. If you feel sharp, non-muscular pain, numbness, or tingling in your legs during or after spanking, stop immediately and seek medical advice. This is recreational impact play; it does not replace professional treatment.

Teaching His Hands to Make You So Wet It Hurts (In the Best Way)

You need his palm to feel like liquid heat, not clumsy violence. A bad spank hurts in the wrong way, leaves finger-shaped welts, and rattles your bones. A good spank spreads sensation evenly, builds warmth, and makes you arch for the next one before the sting even fades.

Positions That Set You Up for a Good Ass-Beating

Some positions make it easy for him to aim safely while you stay comfortable. Over-the-knee is classic: he pulls you across his lap, belly-down, with your back supported and your ass angled up so every smack lands in the safe zone. Tuck a pillow over his lap if his thighs are bony, and make sure you can breathe without your ribs digging into his leg.

Bent over a bed or sofa lets you stretch out and press your face into pillows. Great if you want to moan or yell without restraint. He stands behind or beside you and angles each strike to hit the peak of your curve, not your lower back. If you’re taller, he may need to adjust his stance so his swing travels downward into the cheek instead of across your tailbone.

On all fours on the bed spreads your cheeks and exposes the undercurve, which is wildly sensitive. Roll a towel under your hips to lift your ass to the right height. Start slow here; direct hits to that undercurve can feel intense fast.

Standing with your hands braced against a wall or dresser gives you more control over how far you push your hips back, and he can access you from multiple angles.

No matter your size or mobility, stability is key. If you’re plus-size, over-the-knee might be a squeeze, so try bending over a high bed with a stack of firm pillows under your hips, which gives the same angle without anyone’s legs going numb. If you have back issues, lying draped over pillows is far kinder to your spine than all fours. Listen to what your body tells you.

The Hand Techniques He Needs to Master

Warm-up rub. Before the first smack, he lays a warm flat palm on each cheek and massages in slow circles. That wakes up the nerves, relaxes the muscle, and tells your system that touch, not shock, is on the way.

Cupped hand spank. The classic. He cups his hand slightly so it forms a hollow, fingers together, thumb tucked. A cupped palm delivers a deeper, thuddier sensation that reverberates through the muscle without too much surface sting. Perfect for beginners.

Flat hand spank. Fingers straight and pressed together, palm completely flat. This gives you a sharp, stingy kiss concentrated right on the skin. Works best on the upper swell of your cheek where there’s more padding. He pulls his hand back immediately after contact so he doesn’t sting his own palm more than your ass.

Alternating cheeks. Hitting the same spot repeatedly creates hot numbness that kills arousal and raises bruising risk. He moves left, right, center, mixing the landing spots within the safe oval. Spreads the heat and keeps your nerves jumping.

Funishment smacks. Light, rapid taps that feel playful and teasing. He uses the very tips of slightly bent fingers to flick your skin, wrist loose. Perfect for building anticipation before a harder hit or pulling a serious scene back toward laughter when you’re getting too deep.

Building the Perfect Rhythm

Rhythm is what separates awkward whacking from a trance-inducing ride. He starts slow and predictable so your brain can sync: smack… pause… smack… pause… Then he clusters two or three quicker spanks before returning to the slow beat. Increases force like a DJ bringing up the bass: incrementally over minutes, never seconds. You should never be surprised by how hard a spank lands. The hardest hits come only after your skin is pink, warm, and soaked in endorphins.

Variety keeps your nervous system hungry. Mix thuddy cupped strokes with stingy flat ones. Pause to squeeze and rub your cheeks so the heat spreads. Drop a low, gravelly “You’re taking this so well” or “Count for me,” and the mental arousal punches way above the physical.

How to Take a Spanking Like a Fucking Goddess

Getting spanked isn’t passive. When you turn taking it into a practiced skill, you go harder, longer, and deeper.

The Breath Hack That Saves Your Ass

Your instinct when a sharp smack lands is to hold your breath and clench everything: jaw, shoulders, glutes. That tension amplifies pain and blocks the endorphin flood. Instead, exhale on impact. A loud, slow “haaaaa” as his hand connects releases muscle clench and lets the sensation sweep through you instead of smacking into a wall of tight flesh. Practice this at low intensity until it’s automatic.

Reframing the Sting So It Turns Into Heat

Pain processing lives almost entirely in your head. If your brain labels the sting as danger, you panic. If you tell yourself “this is just hot, spreading heat,” the same nerve signals become arousing. Focus on how the warmth blooms across your skin after the initial bite. A lot of women report that after the first few minutes, the sting flips into an endorphin float that feels giddy, peaceful, and almost drunk.

Know What You Want Before You Bend Over

Set your intention. Are you here to feel naughty and giggly? To be pushed? To dissolve into subspace where you don’t have to think for an hour? Tell your man. A quick “I want you to make me cry tonight” or “Keep it light, I’m tender” gives him the map he needs.

Four Positions for Taking It Like You Own It

Over-the-Knee: The Classic Surrender. Belly-down across his lap, arms resting on the floor or a cushion, ankles crossed. You have nothing to do except breathe and submit. Put a yoga mat under your knees if the floor is hard. If your breasts feel compressed, shift slightly to one hip.

Bent Over Pillows: The Lazy Girl’s Dream. Stack three or four firm pillows on the bed, kneel, then drape yourself over them so your hips lift and your chest sinks. Your ass opens beautifully and you can go fully limp. So much kinder to your lower back than holding a plank.

Leaning on a Chair: The Standing Tease. Stand with feet shoulder-width, lean your upper arms and chest onto the back of a sturdy dining chair, and let your lower back soften. Great when he’s taller or you want to be spanked standing but need support. Grip the seat to ground yourself.

All Fours with Chest Down: The Deep Vulnerability. On the bed, knees apart, chest and shoulders down on a firm bolster. Exposes your undercurve and makes every stroke land directly on the most sensitive flesh. This is the most emotionally exposed position. Reserve it for when you’ve built solid trust and want a session that can slide you into deep, floaty subspace.

Whatever position you choose, pay attention to your neck, knees, and lower back. Discomfort in your joints will yank you out of bliss faster than any heavy hand. Use padding, shift slightly, and speak the hell up if you’re cramping.

How to Communicate During the Spanking

Feedback doesn’t need a script. The easiest system is a one-to-ten scale: one is “barely feeling it,” ten is “my absolute limit right now.” He asks “number?” and you answer honestly. If you’re at a nine, he backs off.

Body language screams louder. Pushing your hips toward his hand says “more.” Curling away or tensing your lower back says “too much.” Sudden total stillness without sound often signals dissociation, not calm. A good man checks in verbally immediately. And say your safe word the instant you need it, not ten seconds after you’ve already blown past your edge.

Blending Spanking with Clit or Cock Stimulation

Spanking alone is wildly arousing, but layer in direct genital touch and you create a pleasure feedback loop that can make orgasms explode. If you’re on all fours, reach back and press a wand vibrator against your clit while his hand crashes down. Or have him pause every few minutes, slide his fingers inside you, then resume spanking while you’re still dripping. For your man, gripping his cock and giving slow strokes between sets of spanks keeps him rock-hard and engaged. The mix of heavy thud on your backside and direct clitoral or cock stimulation often short-circuits the pain response entirely, leaving only bliss.

The First-Timer Fuck-Ups That Can Ruin a Spanking

These mistakes are stupidly common. Spot them before they wreck your night.

Skipping the warm-up. You go straight to heavy strikes and get sharp, surface-level pain that bruises fast and never flips into pleasure. Spend several minutes at maybe ten percent force until your skin is pink and warm. If you’re in a hurry, skip the spanking entirely, not the warm-up.

Hitting the wrong spots. Landing on the tailbone, hip bones, or lower back can cause real injury. Train your man to lay his non-spanking hand flat over the center of your cheek and aim every strike into that mental oval. If he’s inconsistent, have him practice on a pillow first.

Inconsistent rhythm. Jerky, unpredictable timing makes it impossible for you to sink in. He needs to find a beat, even a slow one, and stick to it until he means to change. If his rhythm sucks, put on music with a clear bass kick and have him spank to the beat.

Ignoring aftercare. Walking away after a heavy scene leaves you emotionally raw and your body without support for the comedown. Even five minutes of holding you and rubbing your back clears stress hormones and prevents the drop later.

No safe word. Any scene without a safeword is a negotiation failure. It doesn’t matter that you’ve never used one; it needs to exist. Pick it together and practice saying it out loud once so it feels real.

Paddles, Belts, and the IKEA Spatula: Choosing Your Weapon

Your sensation preference decides what tool feels like heaven. Some women crave a deep, rumbling thud that shakes their whole pelvis; others want a sharp, surface sting that leaves skin humming. Most of us want both depending on the day.

Hand spanking is the most connected option. His palm reads your skin temperature and muscle tension in real time, and he can switch instantly between soft rubs, sharp slaps, and kneading. Start with hands. Even if you never touch a paddle, hand spanking can take you anywhere.

Wooden paddles deliver a heavy, thuddy impact with a small, focused footprint. The rounded end of a hairbrush or a proper paddle concentrates force, so he needs far less arm than he thinks. Start with feather-light taps and climb only when you confirm it feels good. My ride-or-die implement is a $4 wooden spatula from IKEA. It stings like a dream, costs less than a latte, and lives permanently in my nightstand.

Leather paddles are more flexible and produce a sharper sting with a loud, satisfying slap. They can be intense even at light pressure because the leather delivers energy fast. If you love the sound of a cracking spank, you’ll adore leather, but go extra slow during warm-up.

Belt spanking requires serious skill. A folded belt gives a heavy, broad thud; the tip of a single stroke creates a ferocious, concentrated sting. This is not beginner territory. He must loop the buckle end around his hand so it never swings free and practice on a pillow until he can land it exactly where he intends every time. Agree on a low force ceiling for many sessions.

Floggers are multi-tail whips that range from soft suede to heavy leather. A flogger with wide, soft tails feels like a thuddy rain; one with thin tails is intensely stingy. The impact spreads across many falls, so you rarely get pinpoint pain. Floggers are excellent for long, rhythmic sessions that build toward a sustained endorphin high.

Crops deliver a concentrated, sharp sting over a tiny area. They’re unforgiving, and a missed stroke can wrap painfully around a hip. Reserve crops for when you know you love stingy sensation and his aim is flawless. Use them as accents, not the main event.

Sting vs. thud: Stingy tools (crops, light canes, thin leather paddles) light up surface nerve endings and feel hot and sharp. Thuddy tools (heavy wooden paddles, large floggers, cupped hands) vibrate deeper into muscle and feel more satisfying over a long scene. Knowing what your body prefers lets you pick the right weapon without wasting a night on sensations that annoy the hell out of you.

Aftercare: The Part That Makes It All Okay (And Why You Should Never Skip It)

Spanking doesn’t end when his palm stops swinging. Aftercare is the final, non-negotiable act that makes the whole thing emotionally whole.

Cool-down touch. The second the last spank lands, his hands switch from impact to comfort. He lays a still hand on your hot skin, then slowly rubs circles. That signals your nervous system that the intense part is over and you’re safe. Stay in physical contact without words for a few minutes if you need to.

Physical check. He inspects your skin under good light. Look for deep purple bruising spreading fast, broken skin, or swelling beyond what you negotiated. Apply a cool, damp cloth if things feel angry, or unscented lotion or arnica gel to soothe. Drink a full glass of water, because your muscles have been working and your pain response sucked up fluids.

Emotional check-in. He asks “How are you really feeling?” If you’re tearful, spacey, or quiet, that’s normal. He stays present without trying to fix it, just holding space. The goal is to help you re-ground in your body after you might have floated far away.

Cuddling and reconnection. Wrap up together under a blanket. Skin-to-skin releases oxytocin and brings your heart rates down together. Eat a small, sweet snack if your blood sugar dipped, and talk about the scene only if you feel like it. Sex educator Midori puts it bluntly: “Aftercare isn’t optional. Without it, you’re just leaving your partner to weather a neurochemical crash alone.” Cuddling is the main event after the main event.

BDSM Spanking vs. “Just for Fun”: Know What You’re Actually Asking For

You might want the spanking without the power exchange, and that’s completely valid. Knowing the difference helps you ask for exactly what you need.

In casual light kink, spanking is an activity tacked onto sex: hot, temporary, and done when the orgasms are. BDSM spanking often lives inside a larger structure of dominance and submission where the spanking is communication, not just foreplay. There might be kneeling, counting strokes, or thanking your man afterward as part of a ritual. The core difference is power: who decides when, how hard, and for how long? In casual kink, you co-decide in the moment. In a BDSM dynamic, power may be surrendered deliberately within your negotiated box.

Neither is deeper or better. The only question: which makes you feel the way you want to feel? Plenty of couples keep spanking bedroom-only and never attach meaning beyond arousal. Others find that extended spanking scenes become a vital emotional outlet that has nothing to do with getting off. Both are legitimate, and you can swing between them depending on the day and your mood. With you holding the hand, how to spank your husband has the consent script and the first-smack technique.

Your Spanking Questions, Answered Straight

1. 01

   What does spank mean in sexual slang?

   It means to strike someone’s ass for erotic pleasure in a consensual kink context. Deliberate, intentional impact, not an accidental slap.

2. 02

   What’s an example of “spank” in a sentence?

   He pulled me over his knee during foreplay and gave me a firm spank that left my skin tingling and me soaked instantly.

3. 03

   What does “sponked” mean?

   Nothing in spanking play. It’s probably a misspelling of “spunked,” which means ejaculation in UK slang, or “spunk” as in courage. It doesn’t describe impact.

4. 04

   What’s “spanky”?

   It means lively, mischievous, or brand new, like “brand spanking new.” Zero to do with erotic spanking.

5. 05

   How do I ask my man to spank me without feeling like a weirdo?

   Use a simple, direct script outside the bedroom. Say, “I’ve realized I’d find it incredibly hot if you spanked me during sex. Can we talk about that?” The awkwardness evaporates the second you see his reaction. Almost always, he’s secretly thrilled.

6. 06

   Is spanking safe during pregnancy?

   Increased blood volume and sensitivity can cause unexpected bruising and positioning is tricky. Always ask your doctor. Avoid any impact near the abdomen or lower back, and keep force super light. Most pros recommend skipping impact play in the second and third trimesters without explicit medical clearance.

7. 07

   Can spanking cause long-term damage?

   When you stick to safe zones, warm up, and avoid high-risk spots, no. Repeated strikes to the tailbone or kidneys, or ignoring nerve pain, can cause lasting injury. Listen to your body and never push through shooting pains or numbness.

8. 08

   Why does spanking turn me on so much?

   Arousal comes from a delicious mix of physical sensation (nerve endings in your ass and pelvic floor) and psychological triggers (vulnerability, surrender, taboo, your man’s full attention). The endorphin rush after the sting is chemically similar to a runner’s high, and for many women that rush amplifiers sexual pleasure straight through the roof.

What to Read Next (When You’re Done Admiring Your Red Ass)

You’ve got the spanking canvas painted. Now the rest of kink world is waiting:

Everything you want to explore starts with that first word you already said. Now go get your ass spanked exactly the way you crave, and don’t settle for a single swat that bores you. You deserve the whole goddamn symphony.

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Bedroom Decoded publishes sexual health information for adults. It is not medical advice. If something hurts or has changed, read this and then see a clinician.